Aligning with Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine

An injury I recently experienced threw me right out of the Divine Masculine and straight into the Divine Feminine. And, what has this meant for me?

Almost two weeks ago, I fell and broke my collarbone, rendering me fairly unable to “Do” – which is a big part of the Masculine world and a big part, I guess, of the world and how I have seen the need to live in, in my life. I’ve been on this planet for 52 years now, and I do have beliefs of “the need to Do” and “the need to work hard,” so I guess I find that interesting in that this has now thrown me into a position where I can’t “Do.” I’ve actually been plonked onto my bottom in a chair; I have had days that I’ve just slept away, due to strong medication and anaesthetic from an operation and so forth, which has really just plonked me fair and square into the “sit here and Be.”

Now whilst I’m okay with doing that, to a certain extent, the “Be” piece, I will cope with. The accepting support piece, and being open to receiving that support is where my challenge lies. And its something that sits fairly and squarely with the Divine Feminine, not the Divine Masculine. The Divine Masculine is the one to provide that support; to be able to help people; to be independent and able to do it on our own; to be self-sufficient; capable; confident enough to just go out and get everything done, or find a way to do it. And if you don’t know how to do it, you pay someone to do it, you know, you get the expert in.

This Divine Feminine presence, that I’ve been thrown into, which is a huge blessing, is really showing me “oh my gosh, I do find it hard to receive; I do find it hard to ask for help.” I’ve never really felt confident asking for help or felt that I needed to ask for help, and if I look back, it’s been a BIG pattern in my life. I can remember back in primary school days, where I was pretty independent, and I guess I was bought up to be independent, which is great and I’m very gracious for that, but by golly it’s certainly been a lesson in life that is now showing through as one that I need to shift, and I need to break through that. As my wonderful sister said, with a break like that (as I literally displaced a piece of my collarbone), “by golly, you’ve certainly broken through something pretty big there.” And, I’ve been sitting here wondering what the hell that pretty big thing was, and after listening to a video that Lorie Ladd did today, I’ve really had that “a-ha” moment, and it’s really about diving into the Feminine side and stepping out of the Masculine side.

So, my question to you and to others is … “What are you aligning with? Are you aligning with the Masculine, or the Feminine? Or do you actually have a very good balance of both?” I guess it would be interesting to see what your answer is there.

I know I’ve worked in with the Divine Masculine for some time, and in some of the jobs I’ve had, that has been, I guess, ‘called for,’ if you want to use that as the right terminology. Or, that I felt that was what was needed, and if I look back now there’s no denying my falling out of that passion that I once had for my job, and that industry, which was the financial industry. I guess that was really the first step in showing me, Tracey, you’re no longer aligned with the Divine Masculine. Your Divine Feminine is trying to come through and that is sending you off course, showing you that this career is no longer in alignment with what you choose to do.

I was in the banking industry for 27 years, or thereabouts, so it really was a career, and when I left banking, and moved back to my birth-land of New Zealand, I was adamant I wasn’t going back into banking and perhaps that was one of the first steps for me to say ‘hey, I’ve got to try and balance this Masculine/Feminine side,’ in hindsight of course, this view, I see it a little bit better. And in all fairness, I still haven’t, because I’ve still been doing, doing, doing. However, I have now got into a work environment that I do actually enjoy; and that I am quite passionate about, and I have that softer Feminine; more spiritual; more caring and nurturing side come through, and that’s in the health industry, with a natural health shop that I work at.

So, it’s been interesting to sit with that and just see how that fits into being plonked on my bottom and not being able to do anything, even being told not to drive. Well, hello, I live a 5–10-minute drive to town and I’m really not going to walk there in summer, particularly with a broken collarbone anyway. So, things have been taken away from me, which has actually stopped me Doing. It’s stopped that whole Masculine side. I can’t do housework; I can’t cook meals; I can’t drive; I can’t swim. I do hang washing out, but I struggle as I’m doing it one handed (non-dominant hand too). There are so many things, I can’t clean. I’m looking at it and going “wow, it’s certainly balancing up the left-brain, right-brain activity, and in some ways, that’s probably relating to the Masculine and Feminine side as well. But yeah, now I look at it and go “oh my gosh yes, how that has thrown me into a totally different zone of Be; nurture; self-love; nourish; care; accept support; accept help.

I had a care/support lady around to provide some help with housework and I felt terrible telling her what I wanted done. I felt really guilty, and I’m sitting there thinking “oh my god, I’ve got to get over this.” This is what her job is, this is what she’s paid to do; this is what the help is there for, but I felt inadequate in a way because I couldn’t do what I usually do, and I’m so independent, and so reliant on myself to do these things and know that I can do these things, that it really came as a shock to see that I felt guilty I guess, in asking her to do what I should be able to do.

Anyway, those are my thoughts and musings on Aligning the Masculine with the Feminine. I guess my question is “where do you sit? Do you have a balance? Now, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with being aligned one way or the other. I guess I actually have a couple of questions.

If you were to look at yourself honestly, do you align with the Divine Masculine? The Doer; the action-taker; the analytical; the get up and get things done; independency.

Or do you align with the Divine Feminine? In that it’s a little bit more of a gentler role; you’re happy to receive support and help and care. You’re actually happy to stop and just sit and relax and do nothing. And in doing nothing, you will find you do so much, so let’s not be fooled by that either. That’s probably a blog for another day, and it’s one that my sister has tried to share with me many a time and I guess I can see in some ways, but I haven’t really, truly seen that doing nothing means you’re doing a shit-load more than you realise! Again, you know, here I am being plonked on my bum, having it proven that this is exactly the case.

So, whether you align fully in the Masculine or fully in the Feminine, or whether you’ve got a beautiful balance of both, because the yin and yang is what we have. There are polarities in everything as we know, the hot and cold; the dark the light etc, it doesn’t matter. Just understand where you sit, even if you want to put it on a percentage basis. You know, I’m a 70/30 or a 40/60, or whatever it is, it doesn’t really matter. Just try and understand where you are at, and how potentially you could bring in a little bit more of the Masculine, if you’re not scoring very high in that department, just to balance it out. Or whether you need to bring in a little more Feminine in, and just balance it out that way. It will give you an idea of how to live life in balance; how to accept things that you haven’t been able to accept in the past. And it will challenge you in doing that, as it challenged me with letting the support lady know, after an hour I’m feeling guilty and saying that will do, when she’s supposed to be supporting me for an hour and a half. What a wally! But I guess, that’s my learning and hopefully next time she turns up I’ve got a list of jobs for her to do, and I don’t feel as guilty about it. I’m actually in much gratitude for having her here and doing that for me.

Give that some thought and see what you come up with. I’d love you to share by commenting or sending a personal message to me.

I hope this resonates with you.

Blessings.

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Saturday 29th January 2022